Finding TRUE LOVE via the relationship-free pathway

A lot of people ask why I'm single
Like most people, I do want to find my true love someday :)
but I just choose a slightly different (and I believe it to be the 'better') approach :)
You see, I don't think you need to be in 1, 2 or 3 year long mutually-exclusive relationships to 'test it out'
If there's 'love', 'personality compatibility' and 'sexual compatibility', that's all it takes :)
If you're sooo in love, compatible & happy together - well then, just get married!:) lol
but if you're not in love -and you're highly incompatible, being in a 3-year relationship isn't gonna improve things

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So, instead of wasting 3 years "trying to understand someone" or "trying to make things work", you would be a lot happier using that 3 year to get to know other people who could be more in love and more compatible with you :)
(eg, casual dating)
Agree?

Casual dating = intimacy + opportunities to understand/get to know the other person + keeping your options open

If a relationship goes well, it could be the best things that ever happen to you :)
but if relationships don't end well, they affect many aspects of your life - your work life (yes, if you have a break-up, it sucks, and it affects your mood, your work performance), your health (if you feel sad, ...it's not very good for health either)

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The purpose of 'relationship' should not be for 'understanding' the other person
It is unwise to enter into a relationship before you understand the other person's general ideals/goals in life
of course, you don't have to know everything about him/her
after all, getting to know another person is a life-long process :)

so, what's "compatibility" all about?
It's not about trivial stuff like liking the same bands/movies
It's about sharing ideals that are important
eg., if you're health conscious, you'll be happier with a partner who's also health conscious
if you're a non-smoker, you'd feel happier with a non-smoker
if you're a calm person, you'd be happier with someone who's not too temperamental
if you're debt-free and careful with finances, you wouldn't wanna end up with a gambler

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Well, at the moment I don't yet have a personal success story to share:)
but at least, I feel calm/happy :)
and I know that my work/emotions won't be affected by relationship break-ups
- and perhaps, that itself is a success story :)))

I feel that way because I don't think there's a need to live life in a certain way
- there's no need to get married by a certain age, have kids by a certain age...
As long as one's happy, that's all that matters :)

New York nostalgia...

Anything (images, usually) that's to do with New York (including Lady Gaga ;pp) seems to render me a sense of nostalgia...

Hence, the green metal stairs of  Smith &Caughey's building on Queen/Elliot Street (in Auckland City) is undoubtedly one of my favourite sightings :) :)

 - it reminds me of NY apartments in films like Breakfast at Tiffany's... where Audrey Hepburn played guitar and sang the song Moon River while sitting on her window sill.
(Oh, I absolutely love the beautiful lyrics in the song Moon River :)) )

I guess I have always felt an uncanny sense of "connection" with New York because of the many touching love stories that are set in the Big Apple - Spiderman, Superman, King Kong...

Isn't it wonderful that in a huge sea of people...two individuals can mean so much to each other? :))))))
That's a very beautiful feeling :))))

Let's just talk about the less famous NY-films that you might want to watch some day:)
Serendipity

Serendipity is a 2001 romantic comedy, starring John Cusack and Kate Beckinsale.

(Source:Wikipedia)

On a bustling shopping day in winter, Jonathan Trager (John Cusack) meets Sara Thomas (Kate Beckinsale) when both try to buy the same pair of gloves at Bloomingdale's department store. Two strangers amid the masses in New York City, their paths collide in the mad holiday rush as they feel a mutual attraction.


Match Point

I have never seen Match Point before, but stumbled upon the NYC apartment sex scenes video ;ppp hehe - which, in my humble opinion...is very very appealing :))